Presenting Princess Dija
I am growing a Princess. She is only 5 but is well on her way to being a fabulous princess. Yesterday we celebrated her birthday and she believes it was the best birthday ever. The day went like this…
Blueberry waffles to start her day. Take out for lunch (mostly because we had to get away from home so Papa could start his project). Spa Day with her BFF where they had nails painted and hair styled. Brand new tutus for her and her BFF while moms stood by with cameras and watched them dance together. Corn chowder for family supper. Cupcakes with candles. A brand new playhouse that Papa and Trey built while she was at the spa.
She went to bed a very happy little girl last night. The polish was more important than the presents. Our presence was more important than the presents. The experience was the gift and she got it!
Listening to the little girls have a conversation about how much they love each other and no matter what they said or did they will always love each other… A lesson many adults have yet to learn. Telling each other how beautiful they are. Taking turns. Learning from each other. Sharing opinions and listening to each other. Walking hand in hand down King Street wearing tutus… Ok maybe that’s not something for all of us to try!
The thing about being a princess can work in our favor or not. I’m going for the favor part. I know there is a show on tv about girls who are called princesses because they have been over indulged and they feel the world owes them everything. This is not the way I see princess training working out at our house. Yes the playhouse did cost a little more than the average birthday gift and a bunch more than the scooter Trey will get in 2 weeks but Dija has no idea about the value of stuff yet. She also did not notice that we didn’t even wrap a gift for her. When Auntie Tanya offered her a gift and asked if she wanted to open it she suggested that perhaps she would wait until after her nails were painted… What kid WANTS to wait to open presents???
So there are Princess Lessons we are using that have nothing to do with overindulgence because I believe there are more important things we can borrow from the princess world.
Princess Presence. You can tell when a princess is in the room even before she is announced. She carries herself with confidence, clarity and composure.
Princess Pride. I love the definition I found on Wikipedia, “pride refers to a satisfied sense of attachment toward one’s own or another’s choices and actions… and is a product of praise, independent self-reflection, or a fulfilled feeling of belonging”. That pretty much sums it up.
Princess Purity. Little girls should enjoy as much childhood as possible without being tainted by adult issues. They will have plenty of time to deal with adult things as adults… Let them have a childhood. They can be “Sexy and know it” when they are much older.
Princess Perfection. I’m joking… This is NOT on the list!
The whole idea of taking 5 year olds for spa treatments is not to turn them into makeup loving polished painted princesses. It’s really about enjoying the time together and showing them that they deserve special treatment. They are loved, valued, and should be cared for. The sparkly polish is a nice touch and simply fun to wear. The “hands on” carrying for others is something both parties benefit from. I’m proud to have a princess who cares about how she appears and behaves and understands at such a young age that real beauty comes from inside.