Here it is. 30 things in 30 days. This project ended up being a great thing for me, but it didn’t start out that way. As a matter of fact, I started this project because I felt like I was going through what I can only describe as a mid-life crisis. Well, quarter-life crisis.
Seriously, I was at the point where I thought, what is my role here? Is my role to sit on the side lines and watch my boys play soccer? Is my role to taxi them to hockey? To be their caddy on the golf course? To cook them meals and fetch them water at bedtime? And what is my role as a wife? Am I just to co-parent with him? To rub Tiger Balm on his back? Remind him to pick up milk?
Don’t get me wrong, all of these things are my role, and I love them all, I always have. But somewhere along the way, I believe I was losing who I was. I thought, there are just certain things that I can’t do anymore if I’m going to be a good mom, and the wife I want to be. It’s like this: We’ve just paid over a grand in soccer, golf, swimming and tennis registration. How can I justify getting my roots done, or the pedicure I once so enjoyed, or my upper lip waxed? I thought, I’ll just have to go grey, wear socks and sandals and grow a full-on beard. I thought, this is exactly where women are when they decide to let themselves go.
I thought, there is no shame in that. I can sacrifice for the sake of my boys. They deserve it. But I thought, I deserve one last shot before I give in. Thirty days isn’t that long. I can give myself thirty days to be completely selfish. I decided to do one thing different every day. One thing that might not be a big deal, but is something that I wouldn’t normally do and is completely for myself.
And I had a ball!~
At first, it was tough. I would wake up not knowing what my thing that day way going to be. I didn’t have a list, because frankly, I didn’t know what I was going to do. But I’d go about my day and eventually, it would come to me.
Eventually it was more easy, and some days I had several things that I wanted to do, so I’d try to spread them out. Sometimes I would think of something and say, oh I can’t do that, and then I’d be all, hell yeah I can!
And now, after 30 days and spending a bloody fortune, I feel more relevant. Now that the 30 days are up, I know that I can’t stop here. I will continue to do new things, again and again and again until I run out of things and have done everything!
So today, I’m going to share with you 10 of my 30 things. This blog post ended up being way too long, and you would have all ended up falling asleep, so, I’m breaking it up in thirds. You’re welcome! I’ll post all the pics at the end of this. Here we go….
Get my boaters license. I hate depending on a man. And if I wanted to go for a boat cruise, or take the boys fishing, I’d have to wait for David. No longer. I have my boaters license. Look out!
Make homemade wine. My neighbour and friend, Daveda, and I each bought a kit and are making wine in my sauna turned wine/canning room. The smell of the basement as the wine is fermenting is intoxicating, literally. The decision to make my own wine is part hobby, part cost saving measure and part to have a wine tasting with all my wine making buddies at the end of this. There are a fair amount of us who have carboys going. Several of us have already reserved our spot in the detox center.
Get involved in politics. So it didn’t turn out the way I wanted. So what! I now get it. It turns out that some people are elected as leaders and shouldn’t be, and some who aren’t elected but is still a great leader in his own right. Derek Wells is one such man. I went to the debates and helped tweet for the campaign during the last election. And incase you’re wondering I’m now more Liberal than ever.
Win a National Newspaper Award for the forth consecutive year. This day I really had nothing in the hopper and I was getting a bit nervous that I wouldn’t find a thing, and then all of a sudden the awards were announced for our National Newspapers Association, and we won the newspaper promotion category for the forth year in a row. This category is sort of my baby now. I always come up with a promotion for our paper, and I’d be lying if I said that winning this award wasn’t part of my planning process.
Wear make up, EVERYDAY! Seriously, I’m someone who should wear make-up, but sometimes I would go out IN PUBLIC without any on. And I thought, how does this happen? I was the girl who, in high school, my girlfriends would all get dressed at my house and I’d do their make-up. Really, it’s not that hard, I should do it everyday. I knew this was a good idea when one day, I got ready for the day and walked downstairs and Colin says to me, “Mamma, are we gettin’ a baby-sitta?”
Steep a green tea, and soak in the hot tub by myself, without the kids or David. I love the conversations I have in the hot tub with the boys, but this night, it was me alone. The stars were beautiful, the night was calm. I was bored out of my mind.
Download a completely different genre of music; a band that I have never heard of before. I downloaded the Avett Bothers, click this link, it’s awesome, part folky and all fabulous and apparently very popular. I’m so yesterday. I especially love the line that says, If you’re loved by someone, you’re never rejected. Decide what to be and go be it.
Become a member of the International Dory Racers Association. I can’t even believe I did this. My friend and I are now international dory racers. Have you ever rowed a dory, one might ask? Yes, once, in a hospital fundraiser, and failed miserably! And that’s part of the appeal. I hate not being able to do something. So now we’re gonna row, and we’re going to call ourselves “Two Oars in a Boat.” David said, “But Tina, there will be 4 oars in your boat,” and I said, “No, there are only two of us.”
Wear a dress to work. I use to wear cute dresses all the time. I haven’t in a while. So I dug one out and wore it, and even though my legs froze, I left slightly fabulous!
Read an e-book. Personally, I like book shopping and flipping pages. But I thought I’d try downloading a book on my sons Kobo. I downloaded The Happiness Project. Coincidentally, it’s very much like this little project.
Ok, that’s 10. More to come in a few days! Oh, BTW- you know I’m going to be asking you to do something different today. Go ahead- Try it!